In many people’s minds, anal sex is when a man’s penis penetrates the anus; however, one can also use sex toys and fingers to enter the anus. Some also enjoy rimming (an act of moving the tongue around the anus to stimulate it.) Just like cisgender people, transgender men and women can equally enjoy anal sex.
How to Have Anal Sex
Not everyone is comfortable with the idea of having anal sex, so be sure to talk to your partner before touching their anus. While many people enjoy anal, there some who don’t, and you need to ensure both you and your partner are open to the experience. This is not a sex act that should be a surprise!
Once you and your partner have agreed to try anal sex, start gradually by touching and caressing the anal area before penetrating. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t produce its own lubricant, so you need to use plenty of lube. Once you the area is well lubricated, insert the penis, sex toy, or fingers just a little, and then pull out altogether.
When your partner gets comfortable, penetrate deeper and pull out again. Do this until you are fully inside. Take care where having anal sex, and stop immediately if your partner feels pain or is uncomfortable.
Anal sex is pleasurable and quite stimulating for both transgender men and women. However, it might take some time before you adapt to its sensation. If it doesn’t work the first time, there’s always room to try again when both you and your partner are comfortable and in the mood.
Anal Sex Safety
Whether you are a trans man or woman, you should always take steps to protect yourself against HIV and other STIs. The anus has a fragile lining that can be damaged easily. The lining is susceptible to infections.
The receptive partner (the one whose anus is penetrated) has a high risk of contracting HIV or other STIs, especially if there is no protection used.
While the insertive partner has a lower chance of getting STIs, diseases can still penetrate through the urethra, sores, or cuts. STIs that can be contracted as a result of anal sex include genital herpes, chlamydia, HIV, genital warts, syphilis, and gonorrhea.
It is important to use protection when having anal sex to reduce your risk of contracting HIV and STIs. Make sure to use a condom if you are engaging in penetrative sex. Also, consider dental dams when “rimming.” Alternatively, you can use prophylaxis to protect yourself against HIV infection.
Use Lubricants as Much as Possible
The anus is different from the vagina, in the sense that it doesn’t lubricate itself. Therefore, you should use a good lubricant on your penis or sex toy so that you don’t damage the inside of the anus when penetrating.
Do not lubricate your partner with semen (also referred to as cum). Water lubricant is very useful, and the market has plenty of them. The downside with oil-based lubricants is that they make condoms break, so don’t use oil-based lubricant for penile sex.