How do I have sex with a trans man? This is a question a lot of people want to be answered. And it’s not just trans people. Cisgender boys and girls want to know too. What you need to understand is that a good sexual experience demands great conversation between the people involved. It doesn’t matter if they are trans or cisgendered; there should always be a proper exchange of information to be sure that you are both on the same page regarding what you want.
A Guide to Safer Sex with Trans Men
In this article, I am going to discuss having sex with a transgender man. Trans men are born as females but identify as men, popularly known as FtM (female-to-male), who
may or may not have had surgery. In some surgery, called phalloplasty, a new penis is constructed using skin from the thigh or arm. This is actually uncommon, but that doesn’t mean your trans male partner lacks a penis! Testosterone therapy makes the clitoris grow into a small penis, sometimes referred to as a T-cock.
This means you can have sex with your trans male partner just like any other guy. And just like with any other guy, you need to stay safe. The incidence of sexually related illness is higher in gay and transgender men, so remember to take precautions. You can use a finger cot as a condom for his T-cock, but you may still contact mucous membranes which will be secreting lubrication. That is why a lot of trans men use a dental dam to prevent fluid contact. If dental dams seem cumbersome, consider using a garter belt or crotchless panties to hold it in place. This way, you can enjoy frotting and tribadism without holding the dam in place with your hands.
How to Manage Risks and Maintain Good Sexual Health
Research has shown that those who have undergone sex reassignment surgery can have orgasms in almost all cases. In fact, trans males on testosterone can reach orgasm quickly, and their sexual feelings and ability usually increase with hormone therapy.
A cisgender male will almost always ejaculate at the climax, but for the trans man, this can be a little more elusive. However, with the right stimulation, usually through G-spot fun, it is still possible to ejaculate a small amount of fluid. Like cisgender men, it may not be consistent from man to man but try anyway. It’s fun to find out if you can ejaculate with your partner! Be comfortable with each other and don’t be embarrassed. Ejaculatory fluid is not urine!
You can also use sex toys to complement your sex life. Remember to always communicate with your partner to find out what works best for you both. Asking specific questions will help identify what your partner needs, and will ensure that both of you have a good time. Above all, have fun and enjoy your sexual experience with (or as) a trans man.