The conversation about having sex after “the surgery” has only recently started and there are many persons who still lack basic understanding about exactly what happens during and after the surgery. Some people, especially cisgenders, believe gender reassignment surgery for the MTF Trans Woman is mutilation. Others see trans women as “girls with penises”. This causes many people to shy away from even engaging in sexual talks with trans women because of pure ignorance or for fear of embarrassment.
This article will debunk a few of the myths associated with sex with trans women after gender reassignment surgery and offers a few tips for straight men and lesbians.
The first myth is that having sex with a transgender woman makes you gay. This basis for this argument is that because she was born with male genitalia she is a man, despite feeling like a woman inside and having her gender reassignment surgeries. It is completely normal for straight or cisgender men to be attracted to transgender women and many have gone on to get married and create families with these women. Another myth is that if you are a lesbian and are attracted to transgender women then you are not really a lesbian. The argument here is pretty much the same but is founded on pure ignorance.
Another myth is that transsexual women cannot cum. At doctor’s consultations, there are several questions that are asked in relation to what a trans woman would like to achieve in terms of sex and their sexual orientation. This determines the location of where much of the nerve ending will be placed, the depth of the vagina, among other things. After the recovery period, the trans woman will have to masturbate in order to “break in” her new vagina and her body will get used to the sensations that come with sex.
Unfortunately, mainstream media doesn’t provide many contexts for people who are interested in trans women, so communication is key. Don’t be afraid to ask what your partner likes, what feels good and what doesn’t and how to do certain things. This cannot be a one-person effort as your partner will have to explore their body on their own to be able to tell you what to do in the first place. This will, in turn, enhance your sexual performance and increase the chances of your partner having an orgasm.
Experimenting with other forms of sex is another tip to ensure your partner enjoys the sexual experience as well. Have you ever considered anal sex? The great thing about anal sex is that it is non-gendered and even if your partner has not undergone “the surgery” yet or is shy about vaginal sex, she can orgasm in this way. Oral sex is another, more intimate option that can be very empowering especially after having “the surgery”. This can make your woman feel accepted and very sexy.
Sex, as it relates to male to female transgender women can be an amazing experience. Follow these tips and see for yourself how great of an experience this can be for both you and her.