If you are a transgender person, that means you do not agree with the gender you were given at birth, I am sure that there are things you like to and to be done to you during sexual encounters. That is what we are going to discuss in this article. If you are a cisgender person, that is you have accepted the gender role you were given from birth but you have a transgender partner, this article will serve you too.
This is because you will learn what to do and what not to do when you are with your transgender partner. When both are speaking from the same side of the mouth, figuratively, then you will have a happy relationship. There will be no quarrels or hurt arising from any misunderstanding.
What are the don’ts?
There are certain things that a trans person do not allow, either due to their body or their feelings. Some of them may have undergone surgery to get their new sex types of equipment and these tools may be sensitive to touch. So you need to be fully aware of all these. Some transgender people do not want to be touched till after their surgery, while others do not want to be touched at all.
Some trans men see their new penis as the clitoris and may even want their partner to call it clitoris. One trans man I know calls his penis a large clit. Now with such a person, it will be wrong to call his clit a penis or even to treat it as one. Again, some trans person does not like miscalling, that is calling a trans man a ‘she’ because they have breast and calling a trans woman a ‘he’ because of the penis.
During sex too, a trans man may want his partner to gently rub his penis, especially at the tip as if you are stimulating the clitoris. This helps him to jerk off pretty fast. If the partner does not know, she may start rubbing him up and down the long penis and waiting for him to come, which may not happen as the trans person may instead be feeling pain.
In the same vein, a lot of trans women may not really like penetration from the front. They may prefer anal sex to anything. And a lot of trans man does not like to use their new rod to penetrate their partner. All these can be resolved with a genuine conversation.
How it’s Solved
A heart-to-heart discussion on the dos and don’ts in your sex life will clear all worries. Now, when you are having the conversation, don’t make the other person feel awkward by saying ‘you are the reason for this talk since you are trans’. Now that will kill any love feeling they may have for you.
Rather make it a respectful and mature talk between two adults who wants the best in their relationship. Tell each other what boundaries you cannot cross during sex, what you like and don’t like and any style you prefer. This will help to make your sex more fun, funky and exciting.